Constructive communication

In this section we look at constructive communication, watch our video and go through the four exercises that will give you tools to use to help you communicate better.

Watch this video and then follow the exercises below about constructive communication.

Exercise 1 - Constructive versus Destructive behaviour

Look at the cards below and after reading each card do you think they are a constructive or destructive behaviour.

Now re-read each card and consider if you have used them in your relationship.

Do you never use them, sometimes use them or always use them?

You can watch the video again for examples.

 

Exercise 2 - In our relationship

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Click on the image for a pdf which you can download and print if you wish.

 

Exercise 3 - Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviour

Have a look at the example below of how our thoughts, feelings and behaviours are linked and then have a think of your own.

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Click on the image for a pdf which you can download and print if you wish.

 

Exercise 4 - You versus I

Find out how using the word 'I' instead of 'You' can help you communicate better.

Take a look at the 'You versus I ' cards below and think about how you use these words in your day to day communication and what effect they have on the rest of your conversation. 

 

Beginning with 'You' can lead to conflict whereas beginning with 'I' can help the conversation be constructive.

 'You' cards

 'I' cards

 

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